Candida, Sugar Cravings, and the Energetics of Overriding Our Boundaries
Candida is naturally found in the body. It’s a type of fungus that lives in the gut and plays a role in breaking down food. In balance, it helps create harmony in the digestive system. It supports the body’s ability to discern which nutrients it needs and which ones it can’t use or properly process.
Candida thrives on sugar. Like many fungi and bacteria, it feeds easily on simple sugars and inflammatory agents like alcohol—which is, at its core, another form of sugar. When there’s an excess of sugar in the body, candida multiplies. It doesn’t just stay in the stomach or small intestine—it breaches those boundaries and spreads into the bloodstream and lymphatic system.
But why does this happen on an energetic level?
Why do we find ourselves addicted to sugar, to alcohol, and to the comfort of patterns that don’t serve us?
I believe the roots lie in our earliest relationships.
When we’re born, we have an innate, biological need to bond with our caregivers—for survival, for love, for basic needs like food, touch, and protection. This need to connect is so powerful that it can override our sense of what feels safe, right, or healthy.
Babies are blank slates, but they’re also highly sensitive to their environment. They absorb not just what is said or done, but everything that is felt—fatigue, resentment, stress, confusion, even unspoken projections. They can feel when a parent is emotionally unavailable, deeply self-critical, or carrying unconscious trauma.
And yet—they must bond anyway.
Even if the energy feels off or unsafe, the drive to connect is stronger than the discomfort. The child begins a relationship pattern of overriding their internal knowing to get their needs met.
This is often the beginning of a lifelong pattern with poor energetic boundaries. It sounds like this:
“I know I shouldn’t… but I need to anyway.”
The “I know” is our inner knowing—our intuition.
The “but” is the space where that knowing is overridden.
The “I need” is our learned drive to stay connected, to feel loved, to receive—even if what we’re receiving is out of alignment with our truth.
As we grow, this energy can manifest in small, everyday choices—like reaching for another drink or another cookie. It can also show up in relationships: staying with a partner who feels familiar but emotionally unavailable, continuing friendships that drain us, repeating patterns we know don’t serve us, but feel somehow necessary.
This is the energetic root of addiction and imbalance. It’s not just about willpower or discipline. It’s about the original survival strategy we created as children—the one that helped us bond, even in unsafe environments.
The “but” is the internal rupture, the place of shame, of self-abandonment. It’s where we turn away from our own body’s wisdom to keep the connection alive.
To heal this, we have to feel the “but.”
We must allow ourselves to sit in that uncomfortable space of shame and self-betrayal. To feel, without resistance, how our younger selves were simply trying to survive—doing what they had to do to receive love and care. And that’s okay.
Feeling this deeply—without judgment—starts to unwind the internal programming. The energetic cords between child and parent, sibling and sibling, begin to loosen. The “I know I shouldn’t, but I need to anyway” starts to dissolve.
And as that healing unfolds, so does the body’s ability to rebalance. Candida overgrowth begins to resolve—not just physically, but energetically. Because now, we’re no longer feeding it with unprocessed shame, unmet needs, and overridden intuition.
We are choosing connection that is clean, clear, and aligned—with ourselves, first.
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